SMART LIFE SERIES: Learn When & How To Say No Without Guilt.
Coming soon: This article is part 1 of a new series and will be written specifically for Therapists, Healers, Psychics, Coaches, care givers and all other professions serving the masses. I will explain common mistakes you make, how to avoid them and work smarter! We can all agree that the world needs to heal and evolve now more than ever, there simply is not enough time or energy to waste on Perpetual Self Saboteurs, Perpetual Victims, Drama Addicts, Abusive Clients, Toxic Manipulators, and “Gimme Gimme” Free Loads.
Time to get super selective and tough, lets create a healthier social work culture and help those who DESERVE it!
Powerful lasting impact starts with you and me, Compassion Fatigue is a real problem today because when those who devote their lives to caring for society’s ills are burned out and abused, none wins and the world goes backwards as we are seeing happen now. Our society can not afford to loose anymore healers, therapists, teachers and caretakers due to burn out and compassion fatigue. We can not as a society allow those who simply refuse to grown up, to continue to excessively burden, exploit, and abuse our few and far in between humanitarians! It is no longer an issue of a few bad apples ruining it for the rest… I have been witnessing a growing phenomenon of a few good apples in a sea of rotten ones. That is the norm now! Being a weak adult with very infantile, self absorbed tendencies is actually a choice, and it is one that should never be rewarded. We are neither helping them nor the rest of society by coddling their infantile weakness! Helping those who choose to be weak can destroy you because they take and take but never learn. I no longer support perpetual victims, drama addicts and toxic free loads, helping them was a waste of precious life force, and they at the end, are robbed of the opportunity to develop themselves properly.
If you are a caregiver in any capacity and found this article, my hope is for you to understand the problem and apply a number tried and tested solutions I offer. If you suffer from Compassion Fatigue or Burnout please look for the resources I will include at the end of the article. You DO matter, you ARE more important, much needed and appreciated!
Please remember that you are not alone, caring for others as a profession is tough and demands respect and fairness to be worthwhile to anyone, including the receivers of any form of care, emotional, mental, physical or spiritual. You are also not alone in feeling like our society has regressed so far backwards, that most adults in it behave like they are still in puberty. I can not even compare them to children because that would be an insult to children, nor to animals because that would be an insult to them as well. No other species has produced and fostered this much weakness, excessive selfishness and appalling immorality. Some of you reading this are Baby boomers, while I know many outstanding people from the boomer generation, please pay attention because your grandkids tell me how embarrassed they are, by much of what you do and say to them. They can not relate to you at all, and want nothing to do with the the continuation, of the a very toxic paradigm they inherited from previous generations especially your own. This is not only a big social problem, it is most definitely a generational one, because your offspring and their offspring have been left, with much much less than you when you were their age!
Here is a valuable resource for all caregivers, therapists, healers and others social work professionals: The Compassion Fatigue Awareness Project. Their website is www.compassionfatigue.org. The caregiver’s bill of rights below is provided my them, and is something all of you should read out loud to yourself before you start your work day. If you have toxic or abusive clients you can not fire or cut ties with, read this bill of rights to them over and over until they understand it. You have a right to feel safe and respected while working and caring for others ills. You have a right to set firm boundaries to ensure your safety and protect your wellbeing. If you can let the poisonous ones go, do it immediately and without guilt, if they have the energy to abuse and mistreat, then they also have the energy to care for themselves. I highly encourage you to visit this incredible website full of valuable information, including their “Life test” and “Professional Quality Of Life test” or ProQOL.
Books:
Compassion Satisfaction: 50 Steps To Healthy Caregiving by Patricia Smith.
To Weep for a Stranger: Compassion Fatigue in Caregiving by Patricia Smith.
Healthy Caregiving: A Guide to Recognizing and Managing Compassion Fatigue; Student Guide, Level 1
Healthy Caregiving: A Guide To Recognizing And Managing Compassion Fatigue Workshop Presentation
All three of the guides are Written by Patricia Smith as well.
TheBillOfRightsStay tuned for the rest
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